A Job You Love

This is a guest post from François Teyssier, a public speaking and body language expert, www.actingadvantage.co.uk

Betty B is a gorgeous girl of thirty. A brilliant and successful manager, she is running a company organizing events all around the world. But she is not really happy because she has not found a husband. One day she decides to put a message on Internet inviting most of the bachelors of her town at her Birthday’s Party. Every single man, coming into the room, will have to introduce himself. Betty is excited, looking forward to meet with the man she will fall in love with.

The first man is tall and strong. Blond hair, blue eyes, when he gets into the room, he doesn’t stare at Betty at all. Even though he is handsome, she doesn’t feel very good with him. And the worst is when he starts speaking, his voice is really unpleasant, and he speaks so quickly that she can’t understand what he says.

The second one seems to be better than the first one. But, his gestures are really mechanical, and he is coming close to her very quickly. She feels aggressed when he talks to her. She really can’t trust him.

And all the men one after the other are ridiculous without any expression, shoulders drawn back, with persistent eye contact, arms crossed over the chest, sweating, hands clenched to make fists, swaying back and forth, grinding teeth….

Betty feels very sad….

What does that story mean to you?

Do you go to a meeting sometimes and find the speaker really boring, not just because of what he is talking about but for other reasons you can’t explain?

Do you sometimes meet somebody you feel uncomfortable with even if you find the topic he is speaking of really interesting?

Have you noticed the last time you did a speech in public that people didn’t listen to you or didn’t trust you?

All that is not just about what you say but also about what your body says. Body language is essential in communication. Body language is 55% of the communication.

Body language is all about sending non-verbal messages to those around you and receiving non-verbal messages from them as well. While body language certainly does relate to these things, it also has a strong relation and influence on your own attitude and sense of self. This might seem surprising, but it really is true. Your body language sends messages internally as well as externally, so it only makes sense that you can use your body language to influence yourself just as you would those around you.

But what does Body Language mean? It is about eye contact, facial expression, body gestures and movements… It is about the signals we send every time to the people around us.

We have lots of occasions to meet people in our professional or personal life. Being aware of our body language is essential because every single thing we do says something about us!

Acting Techniques help you to improve your body language. You can practice games and exercises to help you to increase your confidence, to be aware of your expression and other’s expression. And Acting Techniques give you tools for sales, interviews, negotiations, dating or anything else in One-to-One Communication or in Public Speaking.

To end up with Betty’s story, after more than a hundred men, a guy appeared. And when she met him, she knew that he was the right one, just because ?.They got married and had lots of children! And lived happily ever after!